Two hearts. Separation Trauma: a neurological bloodbath.
One big heart and one incomplete small heart. The outcome of this painting was not intentional. A
lot of crying took place when I was making this piece, despite the brief peaceful calming process video I shared. Maybe that video was representative of what adoptees are conditioned by society to show you instead of what we really feel subconsciously. For a long time I didn’t know what I really felt (because I wasn’t given the language), so I binge drank, over ate or didn’t eat.
I view my birth and separation from my biological mother as an early death. My personality never formed without a major trauma being present. I have nothing to heal back to. Instead of a cord being cut, I feel our brains and bodies were severed from each other. I was never fed breast milk or cared for by my own DNA so my immune system and genetic expression are poor. My gut health, which is my second brain is in constant peril.
This came from my psyche and I went through emotional hell for about a week after this was done. Again, thank you to my friends who have been a support system for me. You’re the best. I think I’m still coming out of “the fog” from adoption and parental narcissistic abuse and I don’t think that will ever be over.
Context to my work ♥️♥️
Emily Alber Art
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Ceramic Stucco & Acrylic
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New dads Sladjan and Søren are from Denmark. 🇩🇰
"Everything is so new for us in parenting. The best part so far is the unconditional love to such a little human." 💕
The dads love the thought of having their own family, waking up together, eating and sleeping together. They shared that through this process, they have fallen in love with each other again. 👨❤️💋👨
"We have fallen in love again, but in a new dimension: more intense and anchored. What surprises us most is how our life turned from one day to another once we had him in our arms."
"Suddenly, you worry a lot more even about things you normally wouldn't worry about. The most important thing to mention is the rewarding feeling we get when he looks and smiles back to us without capability of saying anything. As a parent, it means everything." 👨👨👦
👉 @sladjansehested@ssehes ❤️
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#GayDads#Dads#GayDad#2Dads#Dad#Surrogacy#IVF#Adoption#FosterCare#FosterDads#AdoptiveDads#GayDadFamily#Family#TwoDadFamily#ProudParenting#NewDads#LGBTQ#LGBT
Judith, Veronica, Ann... Ces femmes font partie des quelque 250 000 Anglaises à avoir été séparées de leurs bébés nés hors mariage. Ces abandons, effectués sous la pression intense des institutions et de la société entre les années 1950 et 1980, ont bouleversé leurs vies et, souvent, celles de leurs enfants. « Nous n’avions pas le choix, confirme Judy Baker. On n’arrêtait pas de nous dire qu’il fallait le faire pour le bien du bébé, qu’il serait traité de bâtard si on le gardait, qu’on ne pourrait jamais se marier, qu’il aurait de superbes parents adoptifs, des opportunités qu’on ne pourrait jamais lui offrir. Mes parents, qui étaient pourtant très aimants, n’ont rien dit, car ils voulaient me protéger des préjugés. » Un préjudice pour lequel certaines réclament des excuses que leur pays – où le sujet reste tabou – s’est toujours refusé à présenter. Mais les prochaines conclusions de l’enquête menée par le Parlement britannique feront peut-être enfin bouger les lignes. Retrouvez notre article en cliquant sur le lien linkin.bio de notre profil.
1. Veronica Smith. Derrière elle une photo de son petit-enfant, né de sa fille, avec laquelle elle a repris contact.
2. Judy Baker montrant la photo de sa fille prise en juin 1968, le jour où elle en a été séparée.
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Photos : Emma Hardy @emmahardy7#PourMLeMagazineDuMonde
#mlemag#mlemonde#societe#enfance#adoption#angleterre#england
🐶Sometimes our dog Porsche gets a special kind of walk. Time with the ones you love is key, no matter whose doing the walking.
👟👠🛼🩴Looking forward to more walks with more people this year.
#hopingtoadopt#adoption#dogsofinsta#petlovers#familyvibes
Are there more gracious ways for us to frame this process of "building" families?
Many individuals and organizations reading this right now are most likely on that path, actually, and to you all I say yes, amen, let’s continue on that journey together.
I’ve been sitting on an email from Easter Child Welfare for months. The one where I asked to find my mom in Korea again, the one where they said her phone number is out of service (or it no longer exists) and I’d have to resubmit a pile of paperwork that I’ve already filled out before.
Between all the things going on in my life, I simply didn’t have the physical/emotional bandwidth to get it done.
However, over the holiday season I’ve had some time to step back and recharge a bit; reorienting my mind and heart in the midst of my search and pursuit of reconnection.
With a plan to finally complete the paperwork, one idea that has become more clear to me is the language of adoption matters.
This of course doesn’t describe *all* adoption scenarios.
I’m putting this out there today to anyone currently on the path toward adopting a child, who’s considering how to think and speak about everyone involved.
“Considering relinquishment?” asks an adoption agency website.
I can’t imagine being in that position; what I do know is the journey back to her (the mother who placed me for adoption) isn’t so simple and I wonder if there’s a way to prevent future adoptees (and their mothers) from having to deal with such complexities in their story.
Who gets to decide who’s brave and loving? And are there ways to attribute those qualities to a person without separating them from the ones they would dare to love?
I think there are. And yes, let’s please continue working on that together.
#happynewyear#backtowork#adoption#adoptionawareness#adoptionjourney#mentalhealth#mentalhealthawareness#birthfamily#birthmother#birthsearch#adoptee#adoptees#adopteestories#internationaladoption#transracialadoption#dearadoptee#adopteetoadoptee#dearadoption#traumaandrecovery#languagematters#internationaladoptee#transracialadoptee#adoptionreform#familypreservation#flipthescript#therapyredeemed
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Shared from @badasscrossstitch
“There’s a lot of real casual chatter about ‘well they can just put ‘em up for adoption” in the dialog around abortion (I’m looking at you Amy Coney Barrett). This is deeply troubling to me. With all of the problematic narratives around abortion it’s hard to pay mind to all of them but this one really needs to be examined and challenged. I recently saw a tweet by @linaleadswithlove
saying adoption is not the opposite of abortion and I knew I wanted to stitch that (thanks for the sign off Lina). There are so many leaders who have the lived experience of being adoptees or displaced people and I recommend going and listening to them. I believe if everyone spent some time listening around the issue of adoption there would be a whole different conversation happening around it (and a conversation that would be taking place outside of the context of a “solve for abortion”) If adoption is not a topic you have spent much time thinking about. If you are surprised to learn that there is a strong movement of adoptees against adoption or in support of a re-examining of adoption then I highly recommend you dive in and give a listen. Some great folks to start with: @linaleadswlove@mindytsonaschoi@beautifullybrokenadoptee@adopteevoicesrising@continua_mag@the_empress_han@seemiaroll@karenwangareleonard@nowhitesaviors#adoption#abortion#problematicnarratives#dominantculture#embroidery#craftivism#antiquetextiles#crossstitch#stemstitch#listen#livedexperience#adopteevoices#adopteestories#scotus#abortionishealthcare
Look I’m getting tired of y’all acting like trolls in my comment section.
Be respectful or get blocked. Period.
I am not a robot. I’m a human and if you don’t like my page or my posts don’t follow me or click on them. Simple.
Like we were ALL taught in preK, if you don’t have nothing nice to say don’t say anything.
I know it can be difficult to read/listen to some of my posts, but that doesn’t mean you get to be rude or act like I’m an idiot. I have a Bachelors in Psychology and Criminal Justice, I’ve done part of a masters program but had to drop out due to health reasons, and regardless of that I am intelligent person. I am sharing my opinion based on my experience, and facts based on RESEARCH I’ve done. If you want to see all my sources buy my book, everything is cited there from legitimate and peer reviewed resources.
And for those of you who are respectful and kind, thank you. I appreciate you. I see you.
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✨If you want to learn more about this, I talk about it in my book. ✨
📖What White Parents Should Know About Transracial Adoption: An Adoptee's Perspective on Its History, Nuances, and Practices
My book is available for preorder at the link in my bio/any bookstore online, and it will be in stores on October 5th.
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