Two hearts. Separation Trauma: a neurological bloodbath.
One big heart and one incomplete small heart. The outcome of this painting was not intentional. A
lot of crying took place when I was making this piece, despite the brief peaceful calming process video I shared. Maybe that video was representative of what adoptees are conditioned by society to show you instead of what we really feel subconsciously. For a long time I didn’t know what I really felt (because I wasn’t given the language), so I binge drank, over ate or didn’t eat.
I view my birth and separation from my biological mother as an early death. My personality never formed without a major trauma being present. I have nothing to heal back to. Instead of a cord being cut, I feel our brains and bodies were severed from each other. I was never fed breast milk or cared for by my own DNA so my immune system and genetic expression are poor. My gut health, which is my second brain is in constant peril.
This came from my psyche and I went through emotional hell for about a week after this was done. Again, thank you to my friends who have been a support system for me. You’re the best. I think I’m still coming out of “the fog” from adoption and parental narcissistic abuse and I don’t think that will ever be over.
Context to my work ♥️♥️
Emily Alber Art
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Ceramic Stucco & Acrylic
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Shared from @badasscrossstitch
“There’s a lot of real casual chatter about ‘well they can just put ‘em up for adoption” in the dialog around abortion (I’m looking at you Amy Coney Barrett). This is deeply troubling to me. With all of the problematic narratives around abortion it’s hard to pay mind to all of them but this one really needs to be examined and challenged. I recently saw a tweet by @linaleadswithlove
saying adoption is not the opposite of abortion and I knew I wanted to stitch that (thanks for the sign off Lina). There are so many leaders who have the lived experience of being adoptees or displaced people and I recommend going and listening to them. I believe if everyone spent some time listening around the issue of adoption there would be a whole different conversation happening around it (and a conversation that would be taking place outside of the context of a “solve for abortion”) If adoption is not a topic you have spent much time thinking about. If you are surprised to learn that there is a strong movement of adoptees against adoption or in support of a re-examining of adoption then I highly recommend you dive in and give a listen. Some great folks to start with: @linaleadswlove@mindytsonaschoi@beautifullybrokenadoptee@adopteevoicesrising@continua_mag@the_empress_han@seemiaroll@karenwangareleonard@nowhitesaviors#adoption#abortion#problematicnarratives#dominantculture#embroidery#craftivism#antiquetextiles#crossstitch#stemstitch#listen#livedexperience#adopteevoices#adopteestories#scotus#abortionishealthcare
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I know it can be difficult to read/listen to some of my posts, but that doesn’t mean you get to be rude or act like I’m an idiot. I have a Bachelors in Psychology and Criminal Justice, I’ve done part of a masters program but had to drop out due to health reasons, and regardless of that I am intelligent person. I am sharing my opinion based on my experience, and facts based on RESEARCH I’ve done. If you want to see all my sources buy my book, everything is cited there from legitimate and peer reviewed resources.
And for those of you who are respectful and kind, thank you. I appreciate you. I see you.
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✨If you want to learn more about this, I talk about it in my book. ✨
📖What White Parents Should Know About Transracial Adoption: An Adoptee's Perspective on Its History, Nuances, and Practices
My book is available for preorder at the link in my bio/any bookstore online, and it will be in stores on October 5th.
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