🛌Rest is one way to intentionally fight back against trauma, especially perfectionism (watch the replay of my guest appearance with @theintimacyfirm yesterday!)
And one thing about me, I’M GON REST! It’s not a privilege, it’s my birthright and responsibility.
Did you take a nap today?! I’m about to take mine!
BTW, I have an announced it yet but I’ll be hiding my Trauma Languages Workshop soon, tracing you how to identify and how to fight against them.
It’s only $40, so save your spot before we officially announce! Just DM me “Workshop” for the link to register!
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🗣SHE’S A RUNNER SHE’S A TRACKSTAR
Rejection issues will have you leaving relationships before they can leave you.
It’ll have you hearing “no” when the person simply said “not now”
It’s a huge barrier to a healthy dating and marriage life because your focus is more on avoiding HURT than embracing LOVE.
A brain that’s experienced trauma tends to see danger where there isn’t any. It’s always on “GO” because you haven’t learn the skills to help your brain feel safe again.
This is what healing is and does. It helps your process trauma and develop the tools to move your brain out of survival.
If you’re ready to do this work, then register for my upcoming workshop, How Trauma is K!lling Your Love Life.
I’ll teach you about my Trauma Languages and how to fight against them.
It’s not free, so you know it will change your life! Just DM me “Workshop” for the link to register!
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*Pro-tip* bringing your partner in on your triggers and asking for support, accountability, and affirmation can create deeper intimacy.
Self-sabotage thrives on two things: neglect and ignorance. Get ahead of it and call it out when you see it.
I haven’t announced yet, but my upcoming workshop, How Trauma is
K!lling Your Love Life, will teach you about my Trauma Languages and how to fight it.
It’s not free, so you know it will change your life! Just DM me “Workshop” for the link to register!
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🥴Self-sabotage is a common relationship k!ller and here’s why:
Neuroscience teaches us that Trauma changes our brain. It cause our responses to regular degular situations to be the same as how we would respond in dangerous ones.
Love is risky. And sometimes a brain that has unresolved trauma will tell you to run, hide, or fight against it.
This can look like making up excuses for why you can’t be with someone, hurting them before they hurt you, looking for negative things in them, or using work as a buffer for intimacy.
Whatever your self-sabotage looks like, I want to teach you how to trick your brain out of it.
I haven’t announced yet, but my upcoming workshop, How Trauma is
K!lling Your Love Life, will teach you about my Trauma Languages and how to fight it.
It’s not free, but it will change your life! Just DM me “Workshop” for the link to register!
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I kicked off ✨Healed Girl Summer✨ (in spring 😅) with a trip to Chicago!
I enjoyed seeing my boo @tryann.elisa and even though the weather was all over the place and all the food wasn’t giving what y’all said it was supposed to give (😂) I thorough enjoyed myself!
I’m digging deep roots into my personal Wholeness journey, and it feels good!
🌱 I’m taking risks
🌱 Trusting deeper
🌱 Leaning on God more
🌱 Abundantly prioritizing rest
🌱 Loving my body to health
🌱 Lavishly loving
🌱 I’m accepting peace
🌱 And worrying less!
It’s so beautiful! How are you healing or experiencing wholeness? (they’re different!)
I also went to Houston so stay tuned for that “vlog” too!
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💐 This was the best and most redemptive Mother’s Day I’ve ever had.
I traveled to my home state of New Jersey to see my grandmother, aka my best friend. While here was some sadness in what is, there was great joy in being able to love on her and let her love on me in the ways she can. What an honor it is to belong to her and carry her legacy.
Additionally, My family has taken such good care of me and reminded me that I don’t exist in this world alone. Thank you to my aunt Carly for always making room in her home for as she’s always done since I was a baby.
I don’t really have the words to explain, But just know that THIS is what deep healing looks like.
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🥴 WHEW!!! I have stories to tell! But surrendering to healing changed my life, and now I get to change the lives of others who have experienced relational trauma.
I can guarantee you that peace, joy, healthy standards and boundaries, and a fulfilling dating life and marriage is waiting for you once you choose to #healforreal.
Until you do you’ll keep attracting 🤡s and thinking THEY are the problem when it’s your unresolved trauma.
If you’re ready to invest in healing from past relational trauma, DM me “H4R” to learn about my Signature Healing Intensive, Heal for Real. (1:1 now available! Group coming soon!)
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Sometimes you have to remember where you came from! April 29, 2019 will always be a special day for me.
If you don’t know my full story here’s a quick rundown:
💔 Only child to single immigrant mom
💔 Absent father
💔 Homelessness (like lived in a shelter homeless)
💔 Chronic instability (went to 15+ schools by the time I went to college)
💔 Se.xual assault
💔 Hidden eating disorder
💔 Rejection and identity issues
💔 Traumatic infidelity & Divorce
When I purchased my home I was finally submitting to the process of healing. I was ready to let go of the bitterness, the fake hard exterior, the rejection issues, and shame I had become so familiar with.
I was scared of what this responsibility would mean but I was committed to living life on MY terms.
My house is my testimony that God is a redeemer! The girl who was homeless has a home 💜
So much more I want to say, but I’ll end with this: Divorce, Heartbreak, and Childhood trauma doesn’t have to be the end of your story!!!!
When you choose to #HealforReal you open the door to the AUDACITY to live the life you were created for.
If you’re ready to invest in real healing (not just looking healed!!) DM me “H4R” to learn about my Signature Healing Intensive, Heal for Real. (1:1 now available! Group coming soon!)
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