@doodledwellness

The body and brain are always learning. ⁣ ⁣ It does an incredible amount of learning when it is first developing because it is kinda like a blank slate. ⁣ ⁣ We have an strong attachment bond to our parents - who created/nurtured us. We are also shown in society that parents are supposed to love eachother. ⁣ ⁣ So when our parents are cruel to eachother - the child learns to associate love with conflict/fear. This is incredibly confusing for the child. ⁣ ⁣ Conflict between parents can send the message to us that love is dangerous and scary. ⁣ ⁣ If one parent talks poorly about the other parent to you or tries to make you take sides, this also creates stress for the child. The child has an attachment bond with both parents. How scary would it be to have to shut out love for one parents in order to win the safety, security, and love of another parent? ⁣ ⁣ The same thing can happen between parents and children. You love your parent, and in someways are “wired” to always love your parent because you are dependent on them for your survival at such a young age. This is why you may tolerate a parents criticism, invalidation etc. ⁣ ⁣ So if this parent creates a sense of fear or unsafety within you through criticism, abuse, neglect, harsh discipline, and validation, this may also confuse you. You feel both love and fear for the same person and may learn to pair those two feelings together.⁣ ⁣ Sending you vibrations to relearn love without fear 💜 ⁣—> free resources available in my bio if you need support. ⁣ #lovestory #fear #parentchild #relationships #attachment #innerchild