@doodledwellness

⁣ As an Asian Canadian growing up with immigrant parents, I turned to movies and songs to learn about popular culture. ⁣ ⁣ But doing this also made it hard to maintain relationships because I held unrealistic expectations that I learned from movies and songs. ⁣ ⁣ I hope this post can help you with some self reflection and grounding back to reality. ⁣ ⁣ Some truths: ⁣ ⁣ ✨the idea of the “one” being someone that will be perfect for us is misleading. Real relationships take work. All of them do even if both people are well suited for each other. ⁣ ⁣ ✨ someone else will never be able to heal you. Sure, they may support your healing but you must still do the work. Relying on someone else to heal you = filling a void so you will never learn to develop your own sense of self/self love.⁣ ⁣ ✨ sometimes we like the idea of fixing or changing others. Movies make it seem like people may change for the better because of you. This may be true in some cases and for others - these attempts can drain your energy and peace - making it an unhealthy relationship. You can’t force people to change. ⁣ ⁣ ✨ there is often an “ah-ha” moment in movies when a character realizes they want to be with someone. In real life, this is often more of a decision that requires deep thought and time rather then an effortless, spontaneous epiphany. ⁣ ⁣ ✨ you may love eachother and be very compatible - yet sometimes these relationships end for reasons other than you (eg. they prioritize their career, where they want to live, lifestyle etc. more than you). And they may never come back - it doesn’t mean they never loved you. ⁣ ⁣ Stay grounded in reality 💜 love takes work. You don’t need a partner to complete you. And YOU get to define YOUR OWN happily ever after - not movies or songs. ⁣ ⁣ #relationships #relationship #love101 #relationshipadvice #relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems