Can you relate to this? It IS true that these differences in communication often make us experience difficult times and misunderstandings with people. The point of this post isn't to ignore that or pretend they don't happen because they do, and they are tough to deal with. I want to point out, though, that when we allow ourselves to understand our differences… truly understand and unpack them, we see them from a more neurodiversity-affirming perspective and become less defective. We are not immune to thinking and feeling the same way society thinks and feels about neurodivergent ways of existing (that is "defective," "disordered," "strange," etc.), so I think that when we unpack these things, we can let go of a lot of shame and guilt that may come as a result of feeling "inadequate" around people. Are we really being neurodiversity-affirming if we continue to put all the blame for confrontations and miscommunication problems on the neurodivergent person?
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Can you relate? Do you find it easier to communicate this way? The more I talk to Autistic people, the more I notice that we do this and I find it so so deeply wonderful, despite not always being well-received. I can understand it might be frustrating to be discussing something with someone and have them say “oh, it’s like in that Spider Man movie when…” or have them respond to a message with a song or a movie scene but these strategies are just as valid as actual words when they are used to help us communicate what we are feeling, as close as we can. If anything, they are better as the alternative is often not saying anything at all because we don’t know how to articulate how we feel and nothing seems to cut it. The point of this post is to bring light that, yes, sometimes it’s a “deficit in communication” from our end (I hate they put it that way) but other times it’s really just lack of willingness to listen “neurodivergently” from the other person.
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Can you relate? Has this happened to you with education? FYI, ADHD folks can definitely definitely experience these as well! Thank you so much to @tiimoapp for collaborating with me in this post. And for providing support for me last week as I started college again and I almost (nearly) lost it with all the overwhelming changes. Combining a strong passion� for knowledge and our �special interests can result� in GREAT academic success for many� Autistic people. However, it doesn't mean it's easy for us. Leaving home, several changes simultaneously, managing responsibilities, chores, assignments, work… I mean, it’s overwhelming for ANYONE, but for Autistic students, it adds a new layer of overwhelmingness. No wonder many of us dropout. I’ve only been able to stay in college now that I know I’m Autistic and know how I can support myself and/or request for support from others. I tried college three times pre-diagnosis and I was a genuine overwhelmed mess. If college is something that you’d like to try as an Autistic person (you don’t have to be interested in it, not everyone is and that’s 100% fine and valid) I highly highly recommend knowing your needs and doing your best to come up with a support system that fits YOU and YOUR challenges.
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