@mack.meres

just a couple little thoughts on some of the conversations we’ve been having on misogyny in queer spaces this week. i by no means intend to detract from the conversations happening around other forms of discrimination in nightlife, but moreso to contribute to the discussion in a way i feel qualified to. - - - [TEXT READS: i want to write a love letter to every femme presenting person who has been called a f*g hag in a queer space. or a basic bitch. or a bachelorette. or has flat out been referred to as a vagina. who has been told that they don’t belong in a queer bar because “belonging here is not about being queer”, it’s about being a man. who has been misgendered by someone in the same breath they’ve been hit on by the same person. who has been told the drag queens they’re friends with will grow out of wanting a “pesky little girl” in their social circles. i want to reach my arms out and hug tight to everyone who has been told that their presence in a queer space makes it “not a safe space”. that while “being a girl is a problem” at least they’re “not like other girls”. who has been laughed at and asked “do you know where you are?” in a gay bar. who knows there’s a good chance they’ll be turned away by the bouncer because the bar is “at capacity”, only to see a group of masculine presenting people let in seconds later. because while there’s a “nondiscrimination policy”, we all know what is said behind closed doors. i want to throw myself between anyone of a marginalized gender and any person in a queer space who has told them that they can “fix” the fact that they’re not interested in men, any person who has said that “if we don’t want to fuck you you aren’t getting through the door”, any person who has asked if a group of femmes are “in the wrong place”. i want to collect the tears that every person who is not a cis man has cried because they felt invisible, or unwanted, in a place that is supposed to belong to them. and i want to take those tears and pour them into a hand carved river that leads us from where we are now to where we want to be.]